Incidents that made me think about the facts of life......
A few incidents which had really touched me and showed me the bare facts of life.
During my school days I used to have kinda crush on a Girl but once the friends black-mailed me to tell her that I was in love and they even kept a bet that it would happen for sure. Once I lost my temper and told go to hell. Now these people told her and she was down upset crying depressed and what not on earth would affect that poor little creature. Then I thought that filmi style she would scold me and blast me cry to me and plead to me. Infact all these happened but what she said and wrote in a piece of paper affected me the most. Here is what she said "Stop all these stupid things and be matured to handle relationships". She wrote and gave "Do not believe false friends they are always there to betray you and ditch you". Still those lines are lingering in my mind and changed my way of thinking towards life
Once when myself when I was with my girlfriend (now my wife) were going around and we became closer to dangerous limits. I still tried to move around with a relationship wrapper of friendship. But that was not the best thing I ever did. Infact that was the most worst blunder I ever committed. Things got worse and we were about to strain our relationship. Then these golden words came blowing like a conch into my ears. "You have to draw a thin red line between friendship and love." Till now that didnt even strike me cuz I believed every relation closer to my heart and didnt wanna put any name for it. But then I realized "we cannot proceed in this world without distinguishing the relationships"."Friends are always different from our own beloved, no matter how close the friends are still that thin red line is there between friends and our beloved ones"
In my ages when I was realizing what the real world is, I used to be more finiky about my religion (the so called one). I used to make fun of others. Infact at times I used to hate the mere sight of them. But later when I joined CHyK (Chinmaya Yuvakendra), it opened my eyes to a different horizon. It showed me what religion is and how is human soul beyond all these man made boundaries. From thereon, I used to see these religion as "Neo sees Humans in the Movie Matrix". "I knew what is religion is what is the real meaning for every religious practice and how we have blindly followed them and now made it a mandatory thing for no reason".
When I started to go along with people in search of my life partner, I lost a few, I felt for a losing a few but I was happy that I got more good people than those whom I lost. Also I did lose people for good. "When I met my real love I then realized that there is still god roaming around just around the corner. I realized whom shud we confide in whom we shouldnt"."What is real love and what is materialistic love.
I got married to my beloved and now Im in bangalore. But when I came here all alone with my wife, it was like lost in the Jungle. My wife and I had to push every other day to just pass it. Things were getting little worse. Had to vacate my rented house, search a new house for buying, meantime my wife got pregnant for which I had to take care of all things in and around her. Finally I some how made it through in getting all these done. But with lots and lots of pain and losses. I had to collect my house keys from the ex-owner only to end up in a life threatening situation where in I escaped by inches from a mob which was on riot. I had to shell out a few lacs of extra money to get my house legal documents done. Run in my weekends to see my wife and my son. All these were running crazy in me all over. But above all these thought me a number of lessons. "Do not rush into things", "Be persistent in getting right things done in the right time", "Be honest and patient to get what you need in the right time", "There is always someone to love you care for you and listen to your worries when you are in trouble (my wife)", "A child in the family will break all barriers between two families, bringing happiness and joy all over".
I recently got a few friends in life, fortunately they all turned out to be my life deciders or in other words guide me in life. One is my sweetie pie who is always there to cherish all good moments and talk all good things, just to show how beautiful is this world. The other is there to shoulder me in all walks of life, assuaging me and understand my feelings and be with me when needed and one who always moniters me in all walks of life and guides me saying and teaching and infact guiding me what to do what not to do. Thereby making my life more seem to be easier. Thus proving again that "god shows ways and is with you whenever you require not in the form as the world sees but in the form of friends", "Whenever or wherever there is a situation always rely on a friend cuz he/she will be the best possible person to help you out".
I met this person in my office who does work so good at times we would think he/she is a genius but at times that person would take to ur nerves that u feel like yelling like hell at the top of your voice. But then the end product would be a sucessful thing with lotsa discussions arguments and ofcourse energy. I attended a Project Management Training and this opened my eyes to handle the team as such saying what to do and what not to do, how to handle critical situations and cater the needs of the team. Now Im sure I can handle any person with any characteristic with ease and bring out the best in them.
