Real Love came my way....
Now I was not a idiot to loose it anymore. I was in depression and was in a situation where I thought this is the end of world and everything is going away from me. Literally I went down to pieces. Eagerly waiting for someone to rely on, a shoulder to lie a lap to sleep. Then came the Angel in my life. Her name is Geetha. I was thinking whom to go and speak out and suddenly she flashed in front of me. On my birthday nobody were ready to celebrate it cuz the house was in chaos and lotsa tensions in the house. I went to her and told can we go out. She asked if we can go to Sai Baba temple. I told yes immediately. We went there and we went to the beach next to that. I was sitting quietly not knowing what is happening around me. Thinking and tears running in my eyes. She then saw a few other girls there in the beach and told she would just go and talk to them. I thought she is just trying to build friends. Suddenly the world's most surprising thing happened.
She called me and surprise!!!! There with those girls there was a cute little choclate cake with one candle in it. She gave me a knife and told happy birthday and they all sang the birthday song and made me cut the cake. The moment I cut the cake tears started to run down cuz till now in my life nobody has done like that. Even my parents didnt bother to do that small lovable act. It was a small cake but still it is the turning point in my life. I then asked her if I can hug her and cry she told yes. the moment the finished uttering the word. I was literally crying like a kid hugging her. she then told those golden words. "Im there for you from now on, Dont tell that u are alone in this world". Man it was so powerful and soothing that we almost forgot that it was our first outing and started to talk talk talk talk talk talk and it was almost getting nite. Then while starting I asked her the most daring. "Shall I kiss you" and then without waiting for her reply kissed her and man. I felt I was flying and my life turned back to happiness from then. And then started all great things.
First I refused just because she was a Christian and thought we cannot get together. Then after gathering enough courage to get to the thought process that she will be my life forever I said yes we will go from now on together in life. We were to celebrate that moment but that happiness ended in disaster with their family urging her to get married cuz she was gettin older and she started to love me so much that she hated to go and see that guy who was coming home to see her. We went all round the city and she was crying the whole day and finally she told I would just go and say no and come back. But what we thought would be dangerous just went like a wind. Things started to cropup like issues from her side and she was under fire. I couldnt open my mouth cuz my sis has to settle. So many things were running around us. Finally she broke the issue open on February 2002 and they called me up and spoke to me and then came yes after so much of struggle and now their family was okay and waiting for my reply.
I didnt open the mouth and tried to push the stuff long and was just playing around. But once I opened the issue. Again a unexpected thing happened. My mom accepted and thought all in the world is green and things would go so sweet. But my so called relatives called up my mom and started to spoil the decision taken. And they infact suceeded in that attempt. My mom was totally brainwashed and she started to cry everyday blast me left and right and treatment went worse. One day Geetha called me home and I forgot to delete the number. She called up geetha's office and blasted her so badly hurting her to the core that she was ready to leave me if I say yes. We then sat to gether and then I convinced geetha to get cool and then told a big lie in my housee. I will stop these and be quiet from there on nothing seemed to be problem cuz I tried to maintain this big lie for more than 2 years from then.
Life was pretty okay in the last half of 2002 and first half of 2003 we were just roaming and tried to some stupid things like the reel-life love and then thought these are waste of time and then started to introspect into each other and stopped all these artifical paper love and started to live the real life where pain and happiness come hand in hand. We started to think of the future and how we will be getting married. Then we once planned to go out by cheating home and go for a day out. A incident came as a strong slap on our face. She met with accident and then we thought how foolish it was to cheat the house. There on we didnt have much choices. Suddenly their house started to put pressure. I then asked my father (sweet person to accept my love in the first time) to come to their house and give a ray of hope. That was done and things got normal and we did all these without my mom's knowledge. My mom was having a growing suspision on us and my behaviour as such. she started to inquire my friends and also started to have doubt in me. Things started to worsen more and more. Now I had a chance in my career to move to bangalore
I then went to my mom and told look Im going to go away from you and stay in bangalore atleast now accept my love and hurray it worked. But now this time the decision was to stay for good. She was brainwashed and we in the family my sister all tried to keep her up with the decision she had taken. We struggled really hard and made both the parents meet. It was like two titans clashing. First question my mom asked them was "will you convert my son" they said no and also told he can marry Geetha without any such church activity. And one thing I should say about them is. They lived to their word and promise. And my mom immediately asked to fix for marriage dates and everything started to double up in speed. Talks were held in September 2004 and marriage was decided in November 2004 itself.
Both type of marriages were planned and morning Hindu Iyengar Way and the Evening Church wedding and nite Reception. The Girls house took full responsibility and carefully noted whatever my mom wanted for marriage and did everything to utmost perfection and satisfaction. Right from every aspect in hindu marriage till the food items for all the occasions. Everything was done perfectly. Things went so good that my mom was so happy and told even a Brahmin Family wouldnt have done to such perfection and was so so happy abt the wedding. She came in Madisar ( traditional Brahminic costume and I came in Panchakacham) marriagge in Hindu way happened happily pepepepepepe dumdumdumdumdum
Then the church wedding. I changed to suit and she changed to another saree with small cute crown. We all sat in church and father started the wedding mass and then came the important moment. Tying the Thali (Mangal sootru). I tied and gave a huge sigh of relief (ahhh atlast done). during that time I didnt see the thali I tied in the hindu wedding in the morning. lately I came to know that if that was seen by the father he would have stopped the wedding. Then I came to know actually they have tied that under the necklace in such a way that it didnt show up. Smart haan. And then finally everything went on well and we had a nice reception and I still had the last fear in me of people disturbing my mom. Nothing big happened and things came to happy ending.
After all such chaos fights and sacrifices here Iam with my wife Geetha and son Adhitya settled in Bangalore working for oracle.
A few points for people who are in similar grounds or wanna have a love life sucessful.
* Never try to play with the sentiments of love and the lover. Dont try to do cinematic love by proposing many and selecting one. Flirting around not thinking practically abt life postponing it after marriage which is always disastor.
* Try not to fall in love and say love is blind. Think practically, if it is workable, if yes then proceed if not part as good friends and never ever meet again
* Raise in Love and make it more mature rather than think love is all sweet and marriage is hell.
* Think of every other possibilities of issues after marriage and have an understanding with ur beloved on what will be the outcome and how to handle it.
* Mutual flexibility and understanding of eacch other's needs and satisfying each one's desire by sacrifising one's need.
* Love ur friends and dont keep the unnecessary relatives around they will always cause problem. They will always come for advice and always worry you.
My next posting will be a new one surprising yet knowledgeable.
Now I was not a idiot to loose it anymore. I was in depression and was in a situation where I thought this is the end of world and everything is going away from me. Literally I went down to pieces. Eagerly waiting for someone to rely on, a shoulder to lie a lap to sleep. Then came the Angel in my life. Her name is Geetha. I was thinking whom to go and speak out and suddenly she flashed in front of me. On my birthday nobody were ready to celebrate it cuz the house was in chaos and lotsa tensions in the house. I went to her and told can we go out. She asked if we can go to Sai Baba temple. I told yes immediately. We went there and we went to the beach next to that. I was sitting quietly not knowing what is happening around me. Thinking and tears running in my eyes. She then saw a few other girls there in the beach and told she would just go and talk to them. I thought she is just trying to build friends. Suddenly the world's most surprising thing happened.
She called me and surprise!!!! There with those girls there was a cute little choclate cake with one candle in it. She gave me a knife and told happy birthday and they all sang the birthday song and made me cut the cake. The moment I cut the cake tears started to run down cuz till now in my life nobody has done like that. Even my parents didnt bother to do that small lovable act. It was a small cake but still it is the turning point in my life. I then asked her if I can hug her and cry she told yes. the moment the finished uttering the word. I was literally crying like a kid hugging her. she then told those golden words. "Im there for you from now on, Dont tell that u are alone in this world". Man it was so powerful and soothing that we almost forgot that it was our first outing and started to talk talk talk talk talk talk and it was almost getting nite. Then while starting I asked her the most daring. "Shall I kiss you" and then without waiting for her reply kissed her and man. I felt I was flying and my life turned back to happiness from then. And then started all great things.
First I refused just because she was a Christian and thought we cannot get together. Then after gathering enough courage to get to the thought process that she will be my life forever I said yes we will go from now on together in life. We were to celebrate that moment but that happiness ended in disaster with their family urging her to get married cuz she was gettin older and she started to love me so much that she hated to go and see that guy who was coming home to see her. We went all round the city and she was crying the whole day and finally she told I would just go and say no and come back. But what we thought would be dangerous just went like a wind. Things started to cropup like issues from her side and she was under fire. I couldnt open my mouth cuz my sis has to settle. So many things were running around us. Finally she broke the issue open on February 2002 and they called me up and spoke to me and then came yes after so much of struggle and now their family was okay and waiting for my reply.
I didnt open the mouth and tried to push the stuff long and was just playing around. But once I opened the issue. Again a unexpected thing happened. My mom accepted and thought all in the world is green and things would go so sweet. But my so called relatives called up my mom and started to spoil the decision taken. And they infact suceeded in that attempt. My mom was totally brainwashed and she started to cry everyday blast me left and right and treatment went worse. One day Geetha called me home and I forgot to delete the number. She called up geetha's office and blasted her so badly hurting her to the core that she was ready to leave me if I say yes. We then sat to gether and then I convinced geetha to get cool and then told a big lie in my housee. I will stop these and be quiet from there on nothing seemed to be problem cuz I tried to maintain this big lie for more than 2 years from then.
Life was pretty okay in the last half of 2002 and first half of 2003 we were just roaming and tried to some stupid things like the reel-life love and then thought these are waste of time and then started to introspect into each other and stopped all these artifical paper love and started to live the real life where pain and happiness come hand in hand. We started to think of the future and how we will be getting married. Then we once planned to go out by cheating home and go for a day out. A incident came as a strong slap on our face. She met with accident and then we thought how foolish it was to cheat the house. There on we didnt have much choices. Suddenly their house started to put pressure. I then asked my father (sweet person to accept my love in the first time) to come to their house and give a ray of hope. That was done and things got normal and we did all these without my mom's knowledge. My mom was having a growing suspision on us and my behaviour as such. she started to inquire my friends and also started to have doubt in me. Things started to worsen more and more. Now I had a chance in my career to move to bangalore
I then went to my mom and told look Im going to go away from you and stay in bangalore atleast now accept my love and hurray it worked. But now this time the decision was to stay for good. She was brainwashed and we in the family my sister all tried to keep her up with the decision she had taken. We struggled really hard and made both the parents meet. It was like two titans clashing. First question my mom asked them was "will you convert my son" they said no and also told he can marry Geetha without any such church activity. And one thing I should say about them is. They lived to their word and promise. And my mom immediately asked to fix for marriage dates and everything started to double up in speed. Talks were held in September 2004 and marriage was decided in November 2004 itself.
Both type of marriages were planned and morning Hindu Iyengar Way and the Evening Church wedding and nite Reception. The Girls house took full responsibility and carefully noted whatever my mom wanted for marriage and did everything to utmost perfection and satisfaction. Right from every aspect in hindu marriage till the food items for all the occasions. Everything was done perfectly. Things went so good that my mom was so happy and told even a Brahmin Family wouldnt have done to such perfection and was so so happy abt the wedding. She came in Madisar ( traditional Brahminic costume and I came in Panchakacham) marriagge in Hindu way happened happily pepepepepepe dumdumdumdumdum
Then the church wedding. I changed to suit and she changed to another saree with small cute crown. We all sat in church and father started the wedding mass and then came the important moment. Tying the Thali (Mangal sootru). I tied and gave a huge sigh of relief (ahhh atlast done). during that time I didnt see the thali I tied in the hindu wedding in the morning. lately I came to know that if that was seen by the father he would have stopped the wedding. Then I came to know actually they have tied that under the necklace in such a way that it didnt show up. Smart haan. And then finally everything went on well and we had a nice reception and I still had the last fear in me of people disturbing my mom. Nothing big happened and things came to happy ending.
After all such chaos fights and sacrifices here Iam with my wife Geetha and son Adhitya settled in Bangalore working for oracle.
A few points for people who are in similar grounds or wanna have a love life sucessful.
* Never try to play with the sentiments of love and the lover. Dont try to do cinematic love by proposing many and selecting one. Flirting around not thinking practically abt life postponing it after marriage which is always disastor.
* Try not to fall in love and say love is blind. Think practically, if it is workable, if yes then proceed if not part as good friends and never ever meet again
* Raise in Love and make it more mature rather than think love is all sweet and marriage is hell.
* Think of every other possibilities of issues after marriage and have an understanding with ur beloved on what will be the outcome and how to handle it.
* Mutual flexibility and understanding of eacch other's needs and satisfying each one's desire by sacrifising one's need.
* Love ur friends and dont keep the unnecessary relatives around they will always cause problem. They will always come for advice and always worry you.
My next posting will be a new one surprising yet knowledgeable.
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